Balance is not better time management, but better boundary management.
Ok, so maybe it’s both. But seriously, we have got to get better at giving ourselves permission to do the things or not do the things that are in our best interest. I use the word permission in the place of boundary. I like it better. I think it’s easier to digest. I also think it’s a better description of what’s happening.
This is an on-going practice for me. Each season of my life brings about new circumstances that require me to figure out what is best for me in each situation. And that may change from time to time. For example, when I started school I had to give myself permission to say no to the things that would keep me from doing my homework. Homework takes up a lot of time. That means saying no to people I love or things I would like to do. It also gave me a legitimate excuse for the things I didn’t want to do. Permission can also be saying yes. I say yes to the things that bring me joy and peace. I say yes to people who put forth effort in our relationship to keep it growing. Permission also goes deeper than my time management. It impacts my growth and mental health. I had to learn to give myself permission to question and trust my intuition. This continues to be a difficult area for me as it has been ingrained in me NOT to trust myself.
Time management is important but without the appropriate boundaries in your life, in your day, in your relationships, it can be really challenging or near impossible to achieve. You will end up feeling like this illustration-overwhelmed and drowning.
I believe in you and I know you are capable of doing hard things! I'm always here to support you if you need it.
What are came to mind while reading this today? What permission needs to be given to achieve a more peaceful and productive life in this area?