Belonging

I have a client that I have been working with off and on since I began coaching woman. She came for several months at first and worked on some foundational tools and practical applications. She would take time to implement them and then I would see her when she needed help reframing challenging situations in her life. Recently she booked an appointment to discuss the topic of this blog, Belonging. I know she is not alone in feeling lost or like she was floundering and needed a place to belong. So, let's start with, Why does belonging matter so much for women today?

Let me define what I mean by belonging-

Belonging is the deep sense of being accepted, valued, and connected for who you truly are—not just for what you do. It’s the experience of knowing you have a place, that your presence matters, and that you can show up authentically without fear of rejection or judgment. Belonging quiets the inner voice that says “I’m not enough” and replaces it with the assurance, “I am seen, I am safe, I am valued.” And here's why that matters so much, it's essential. It's more than being included, it's the emotional connection we long for. When we find it, we experience reduced stress, increased resilience, and more stable and positive mental health. When we balance the many roles we carry, belonging reminds us that our presence—not just our productivity—matters most.

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As I stated above, belonging creates resilience and grit. Which creates a buffer against burnout. Belonging also boosts creativity and focus because less of your energy is spent on managing negative emotions and insecurity. The truth is, there’s no way to be truly creative without being vulnerable — and vulnerability only thrives in a safe space of belonging. When we feel like we belong it strengthens our engagement at work, in our community, and most importantly, with our families.

So, if belonging makes this much difference, how do we begin to nurture it? Great question! First, let's pause and take notice of where we already belong. This is a great opportunity to journal or write out your thoughts. Make a list of the places or people groups where you feel a sense of belonging. Maybe try reframing some self-talk from “I don’t fit” → “I bring something unique”. (If this isn't the language that fits, try something different let this be your guide. Now, give yourself permission to rest and take a breath in the places where you feel safe, seen, and valued.

I will leave you with this, Belonging isn't a luxury--It's essential to your well-being. Where in your life do you notice a strong sense of belonging? And where might you need to nurture it, or establish boundaries to protect your peace?

Next week, I will focus on where we find belonging and connection. I know this will resonate with many of my followers. If you are one of them and like my dear client, you need to pop in for a few sessions to establish some foundational tools and their practical application, please do! I offer free consultations to allow you to ask me questions and to assess if I am the best fit for your situation.

I hope you have the best week.

Much love,

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