I have had a lot of mentors in my time and many of them didn't even know me. How is that you ask? Well through books, podcasts, and interviews. Oh, and the fact that I am teachable and want to learn. That being said, Dr Brene Brown has been a mentor of mine since I first discovered her maybe around 10/11 years ago. A friend sent me her TED talk. Maybe she had already done the second one at that time, I don't remember. But what I do remember is the impact her words had on me in regards to shame and vulnerability. She was so real and authentic in her talk that I totally related to some of the content. So I started reading more and following her. I searched YouTube for interviews she gave, I listened to podcast interviews and I read her books. (I still do.) I even opened up my living room for book clubs where women gathered and discussed some of her books like, The Gifts of Imperfection and Rising Strong. And, when reading Dare to Lead, I did the workbook with a couple of friends who I used to work with who also value strong leadership and found themselves in careers mostly dominated by men. Dr Brene brings in a different approach. I found it refreshing and necessary.
To my point, one thing I learned from her that has stuck is; while vulnerability is essential to a growing relationship, not everyone deserves to hear your story. And, that can be tricky to navigate. Here's an example in how I navigate it. Aside from being a college student I am a life coach and really enjoy helping couples strengthen their relationship. That part of my life, I will share quickly. But the fact that I married at 15 years old and have been married three times, that part I won't share until you get to know me better and hear about my life now and that Timothy and I have been married for over 25 years. Now you have a deeper understanding of why I really enjoy helping other couples. That totally changes the perspective, don't you think? (Yes, I know I just put that out for the universe to read but I am much more than my past. And you are too!) So, let people get to know who you are today before you let your life story spill out. It's your story to share just be sure they deserve to hear it before you start sharing. I hope you find this helpful.
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